It was Lisa’s boyfriend who finally said enough to her ex’s harassment.
It was him who came and helped her pack up her home and move to D. While he was obviously a tower of strength for Lisa, his presence was greeted by hostility from her children, especially her daughter adding to her parenting after divorce woes.
Maybe twice in that year I saw her, maybe three times total.
I found out later, even her boyfriend was like,“Get over it. You want your mom to be happy.”My ex was already dating people, within two weeks he was with someone and to this day he’s had eight relationships in two years. They started to see the contrast, and finally she came at Christmas. She showed up with her boyfriend a little late that day, wouldn’t look at my boyfriend, just mumbled a quick hello and shook his hand. I don’t see him going anywhere.”So she came out and she was better.
Let them be a resource to you when you being relating to the opposite sex.
Being a single parent is a challenge for anyone, and this ‘force’ at work is to be reckoned with when opening up your social world.
Here’s Lisa: It was a little less than a year after I gave my ex separation papers that I started seeing my boyfriend. Then it came around to be Christmas, and we had been dating for a little over a year.
The kids knew I was having dinner with a gentleman because it was a long-distance relationship and I didn’t see him that often but I didn’t have him meet the kids until almost exactly a year later. I said to the kids,“He’s going to come here this year because his kids are with his ex, and I’m having him here.
This should apply to all relationships, but is especially significant when children are involved. Do not hesitate to seek the services of a good Christian counselor for your children as well as for yourself.
There are surely many more considerations as relates to dating and single parents, but I am hopeful that the above points will serve you as you seek other input.
Children will either want the parents to get back together and set out to sabotage the new relationship OR try to make the new relationship the ‘rescue’ for them as well as for their parent. Children have to work through their emotional scars left over from the divorce too.