A healthy purpose for a dating relationship is to discern possible marriage.Otherwise the dating relationship is nothing more than selfishness of either one or both people.
But like any breakup, a man must go through a grieving and healing process before he is ready to date.
Not only does an adequate amount of time need to pass before someone starts dating after a divorce, but that time should be purposeful.
Participating in professional counseling, mentoring, and support groups, ideally Christian-based, shows a man’s humility, maturity, and leadership.
He needs to seek healing for himself, not just to satisfy the wishes of a new girlfriend.
Even though I have never been through a divorce, I imagine it is difficult to identify one clear reason for it. Depending on your interpretation of scripture, your personal experiences with divorce, and your convictions, you may not agree with the reasons.
It was also a red flag that my suspicions were right – we didn’t share the same level of interest in each other.